Recovery Begins

We face situations that always influence how we turn out to be. Situations like how our parents treated us while we were kids, how our spouses treated us or how people related to us while we were in school among many others. These situations tend to leave a long lasting scar on our lives. For example, your former spouse for a number of times was having extra affairs, when you move into a new relationship you'll have the mentality that all men/girls are always like that. If your parents mistreated you while you were growing up, you end up believing that the world out there is harsh just as same and the list goes on...for a long time we are blinded by these things till they end up becoming part of us. We must learn to understand that our world only becomes what we view it as. We may have a tough dark past but it's better to view it as what was shaping us rather than a scar of the world. When you were mistreated while growing up, don't end up mistreating people later in your life. Your ex-partner played you, don't start having numerous lovers for the sake of revenge saying your ex was a jerk, and forgetting you are becoming one when you do the same thing he/she did to you. Let people that are in your life your life influence you but don't let them define you. Be defined by your good morals; be good despite how much people aren't good towards you because at the end of the day you should live your life. Every trouble you go through in life is to prepare for you to use it on someone in need in future. It's often said, “You can't save someone who is down not unless you yourself have been there” all the trouble are to help you understand others better. Some people never did hurt you intentionally so don't take it out on others.

Now here is a secret, do you know why most of relationships fail? It is because when we go out to look for the love partner, we go out looking for someone who can complete us...someone who can fill up that void in us, that someone who can make us feel special. That is the biggest mistake a lot have been doing. First before you go out looking for love, furthermore you should not be looking for love...like i was stating, before you are out to find your partner...first find yourself, understand yourself and love yourself. There's a lie we are always told that we need to find someone who will love us for our faults, that means you are over looking your defaults and trying to find someone we can use as an excuse of "oh i am only human, i am not perfect"...once you view yourself as imperfect thus you are generating yourself as an imperfection. Look in the mirror and fall in love with the person you see, stop looking for excuses, like i am fat, i am insecure, i am too needy, and other blah blah blahs. Like it's always said, don't fall in love because you are lonely fall in love because you are ready. And by ready it means find yourself, understand yourself and love yourself. Fill that void in you with your own joy and satisfaction and love will find you not vice versa... Lisa Nichols said, "Inside relationships it's important to first understand who's coming into the relationship, and not just your partner. You need to understand yourself first"...now you know the secret..