Recovery Begins

We face situations that always influence how we turn out to be. Situations like how our parents treated us while we were kids, how our spouses treated us or how people related to us while we were in school among many others. These situations tend to leave a long lasting scar on our lives. For example, your former spouse for a number of times was having extra affairs, when you move into a new relationship you'll have the mentality that all men/girls are always like that. If your parents mistreated you while you were growing up, you end up believing that the world out there is harsh just as same and the list goes on...for a long time we are blinded by these things till they end up becoming part of us. We must learn to understand that our world only becomes what we view it as. We may have a tough dark past but it's better to view it as what was shaping us rather than a scar of the world. When you were mistreated while growing up, don't end up mistreating people later in your life. Your ex-partner played you, don't start having numerous lovers for the sake of revenge saying your ex was a jerk, and forgetting you are becoming one when you do the same thing he/she did to you. Let people that are in your life your life influence you but don't let them define you. Be defined by your good morals; be good despite how much people aren't good towards you because at the end of the day you should live your life. Every trouble you go through in life is to prepare for you to use it on someone in need in future. It's often said, “You can't save someone who is down not unless you yourself have been there” all the trouble are to help you understand others better. Some people never did hurt you intentionally so don't take it out on others.

We don't expect everything to be perfect and neither do we expect ourselves to be perfect but that does not mean we can't be the best of us today. The world is harsh and each day somebody is bound to annoy us. Be it a friend, family, a stranger or even the love of our lives...maybe just because they woke up on the wrong side of the bed and they let their temper out on us...its not because they love it but its because they have a lot on their shoulder. But keep this in mind...two wrongs don't make a right and some people are brought into our lives not to help us but instead we be there angels. You maybe going through a lot too but its better your swallow your pride and instead of being mean to them, be nice...even when they hurt you reply it with a smile or a compliment or a shoulder...maybe that is what they are looking for...you never know, someone maybe on the brink to terminate their life and you may be their savior just because your kindness showed them that they are loved and they are not alone. That fake smile on your face, those kind words maybe your key to your dreams. God gives the hand that offers...you help this person today and you never know he/she maybe having the solution to your problem(s). Remember you cannot reap apples when you planted cactus. Your partner maybe short tempered and he/she keeps on getting pissed off at simple things. They'll do that a lot and it will hurt you. And if your response to them is getting mad at them, staying away from them, replying them with anger too, it will stick as a habit...and nothing will ever get better. But if your response is you smile, you calm them down, you show them love...assure them that everything is going to be okay. With time they will see that they are wasting themselves and they'll realize that they are the one at the losing end and you'll be surprised on how they change to become better. Always remember a victorious fighter is not the one with a gun on his hand...it is the one with a smile on his face. Don't ever let people take the best from you...let people bring the best out of you. A foolish angel is that who believes that he/she is not an angel, instead others are.